Even for the most put together person killing it in business, finding footing in love can feel like navigating treacherous terrain. Some days you feel powerful and hopeful and ready to embrace the world. You put yourself out there, smile, engage, and stay open to the possibilities. Some days you wake up, look over at the pillow next to you with a tender ache to have a soulful connection with someone and then spend the rest of the day fighting the Eeyore effect. The uncertainty can be overwhelming. We get it.
So, what gives? You might be wondering.
What can you do to set yourself up for success in love and matchmaking?
We asked Patty Russell, Senior Matchmaker for the Kelleher International CEO Club to help unravel (at least some) of this mystery.
“I won’t bury the lead,” Patty says. “The absolute most important thing you can do to attract love and happiness is to have fun. The idea that you’ll enjoy your life once you have a special someone to share it with is absurd. If you aren’t already enjoying your life, you’re not going to show up well to potential partners.”
This simple two-word concept - Have Fun - extends from your personal mission in life to your single most important task when dating. Even when you’re out with someone and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it’s not a match, still have fun.
If you refrain from shutting down on a “bad” date, you might find yourself with an excellent new business connection, friend, or tennis buddy. “Find the positive aspects of the introduction. You never know what you might learn and how the interaction will impact your life,” Patty suggests.
She reflects on one of her favorite matchmaking wins to explain further. “After matching two clients for a first date, during the dating debrief, the woman wasn’t sure if she wanted to see the man again. I encouraged her to stay open and give it one more try. Long story short, they’re married.”
“One of the biggest mistakes I see clients make,” Patty says, “is to have too many expectations on a first or second date.” Try flipping the script and leave the expectations at home. Go out with the sole intention of having an enjoyable experience meeting someone new.
At Kelleher International, part of our relationship with clients is coaching them through the uncertainties of dating and navigating new love. Patty beams as she explains, "The most fulfilling part to me is the opportunity to empower people to turn their lives around and do things differently. People want to be heard and understood; coaching is a highly important part of the matchmaking process."
If you find yourself ready for a change and open to the possibilities of using a matchmaking firm, give us a call and we’ll talk you through the process. Our reach is international, but our goal is simple - to have fun connecting amazing singles in love and philanthropy. Let our matchmaking mavens assist you in the game of love. Come on... it'll be fun!