Of all things that people crave in life, the biggest and most important, is undeniably love. Even those with all of the money, power and freedom in the world chase after someone to spend and share their life with. When you finally find someone with whom you feel comfortable and content, it isn’t unreasonable for you to assume that you have found “the one.” But if you have had your heart broken in the past, you may be hesitant to commit to this person fully for the long term. If you are in doubt about the durability of your relationship, here are 5 signs you've found the one for you.
#1: They Listen to You
A good partner not only listens to the words you say, but also how you say them. They can tell what you mean without even having to say so verbally. This shows that they truly care about your feelings. Do not ever take this trait for granted, as spouses that expect each other to read their minds usually end up fighting over misunderstandings more often than not.
#2: Your Relationship Has More Love, Less Arguments
Arguments are a normal and healthy part of any human relationship, but as with anything, can be harmful in excess. Fighting should never leave you in a good mood – it hurts to hurt the one you love for a reason. The key is to always apologize, even if you did not start the fight or do something to provoke your partner’s anger. It may be their fault that an argument started, but that is not going to console you when you’re both left hurt, heartbroken, and alone. A solid relationship needs more love, affirmation and good times than bad ones.
#3: You Want to Share Everything with Them
Somehow, you forgot about “me, mine, and myself,” and started thinking in terms of “us, ours, and we’re.” When you want to share everything you have with a person, you know you are committed. If they likewise want to share stories of their day with you, and let you be the first to know when they receive good or bad news, or when they think of something funny, they’re committed as well. If they are happy, you are happy.
#4: You Are Comfortable With Them
When you are around this person, you do not feel a need to be “on” all the time. You can be yourself and relax without worrying about how you look. Your special someone does not gasp in horror if they find you on the couch in an old pair of sweatpants and a big glass of wine after a long day at work. You trust each other not to judge or condescend. Compatible soul mates love each other for who they are, and are proud to be able to share a life together.
#5: You Have Similar Definitions of “Romance”
It’s an old stereotype that women require flowers, chocolates, dancing, and romantic films to have a romantic evening. In truth, everyone has their own idea of romance. Some couples would rather watch a game together over a plate of wings and pints of beer in their favorite sports bar, while others prefer to stay in and watch all of House of Cards on Netflix while sharing a bottle of wine and a homemade meal. The idea of a perfect romantic date is a highly subjective thing, so when it comes to spending time together, a strong couple usually has compatible notions of romance. Not every woman wants to be treated to the midnight screening of Twilight or Sleepless in Seattle, just as not every guy wants to go on a date to the Lakers game. If you and your partner feel the most in love while doing things that other people may not call “romantic,” then it is okay. If you know what your partner views as “romantic” and go the extra mile to make that happen, and vice-versa, then you are already off to a good start.
You really know that you have found “the one” when you are compatible with one another. This does not mean that you necessarily have identical tastes or opinions. Instead, you simply treat each other well and complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses. The ability to work as a team will be increasingly important as your life together goes on.