Ask the Matchmaker - March

Posted by Amber Kelleher on Mar 1, 2012 1:00:00 AM

National Matchmaker: Nicole

I'm on the far side of 35 and I want to have children, when do I bring it up during dating and not scare off men?

If you were part of the Kelleher International network, your matches would already be screened for "wants children". Although men can bring this topic up on a first date, women should not bring it up before the third. We encourage you to be direct, but not necessarily blunt. Bring it up in the context of talking about his family and siblings and make it about YOU, not HIM -- say "I hope to have three kids some day", not "do you want kids some day?" If he takes the cue and responds with his perspective, then you learn what you need; if he doesn't, then slowly turn it towards him e.g., "does you sister have kids..." until you eventually make it to "what kind of family do you see in your future?" (don't make it a yes/no question).

Don't put off asking the question too long, but also don't be afraid to pursue it delicately.

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