National Matchmaker, Nicole
Since we started dating over the Summer, we've been together constantly and I was loving every moment of it. But I'm starting to miss my space, and especially now that it’s football season, I’m missing my buddies and the occasional golf game or Sunday afternoon watching the NFL. How do I start to spend some more time with the fellas without my new lady feeling like I am pulling back?
This situation is extremely common and the answer is simple – tell her what you just told us.
We have a constant mantra here at Kelleher International encouraging honesty and openness. You're very astute to know that you need to address this change, because if you just start to spend more time apart without explanation, she will write her “own story” -- so it’s best to get it all out in the open.
Healthy lives are full of balance and it should be simple to explain to her that you have great hopes for your relationship but that you feel a little out of balance with your friendships that are important to you.
Every woman will understand this, and even more, will appreciate the openness of the discussion. Enjoy your golf game!