If you are an intelligent, educated, powerful businesswomen, these three shared traits will earn you a large amount of respect and admiration amongst your friends and peers. But when it comes to the tricky world of dating, many career-minded women do
not experience the same amount of success as they do in other areas of their lives. Why does finding a potential partner prove so difficult? After all, there are thousands of single men in the world, and it stands to reason that one of them possesses the characteristics, drive and personality that will effectively compliment your own. So where exactly are you going wrong?
One of the most common reasons that successful women have trouble finding love is that they think men are turned-off or intimidated by strong women, but this is seldom the case. Men can be very attracted to strong, independent women.
In any romantic relationship, you must always see your partner as your equal, regardless of whether or not their career is as successful as yours. Balancing your personal life with a highly demanding career can become a complicated and testing part of everyday life, especially if you are in an industry where only the über-ambitious thrive. Those with firm life aspirations who want to meet a male counterpart as hard-working and successful as herself might find it more difficult than managing a busy career.
In 2008, Jill Kelleher and her daughter, Amber Kelleher-Andrews were featured in a TV interview on The Today Show, where they were asked about their continuing work to help loving successful singles discover a romantic spark with someone special.
Jill states that their job is to search for those with innately similar personalities, "a combination of commonalities," and Amber even joked that "we'd love to match (the whole of) America if we had enough time!" The team at Kelleher International was tasked with finding some potential love matches for co-anchor of the show, newly-single-at-the-time Hoda Kotb. Hoda talked a little about her experience, mentioning that "I've got butterflies again. It's like high school - only in high school, I had frizzy hair and stop-sign glasses. This is so much better."
In some cases, love is as simple as finding a partner with similar interests. For example, if you are fit, athletic and enjoy working out, chances are you will take pleasure in the company of those who frequently visit the gym, play sports or regularly go on a healthy hiking session. Similarly, if you are a budding entrepreneur, try looking for local business networking opportunities in your area that give you the opportunity to meet potential partners with the same goals for the future.
Networking events instantly give you easy go-to topics of conversation. One of the scariest parts of dating in the initial stages is the possible lack of banter and discussion, due to someone being nervous, edgy or shy. Having similar interests makes it easier to strike up a conversation with that perfect stranger you've already set your sights on.
When you do meet a guy you deem your equivalent, many complain that it becomes difficult to not begin micromanaging the day-to-day aspects of your love life. Unfortunately, this sometimes includes every act that your new guy carries out. This will introduce an unhealthy element to any relationship because no-one enjoys being told what to do. It is always useful to keep in mind that demanding behavior is never tolerated for very long before sparks fly and arguments start occurring. Most people are rather content with the way they are without someone trying to alter their lives for their own personal benefit. The general rule of thumb is, if you have an urge to change a guy you like, you shouldn't be dating in the first place. The only person you should ever want to change is yourself.