I interview and screen dozens of successful and attractive men every week for membership into the Kelleher International network. There is something about this time of year that bring out the sports fan in our male membership. I don't know if it's March Madness winding down or
the thrill of sorting through the "Big Package" when their Luxury Box Season Tickets show up, but we have a surge in April of current/former athletes and men who love their sports.
So how do compete for the love and attention of a man who has already given his heart to the Chicago Cubs? I’ve got great news. Hard core sports fans can make great life partners if you let them, and if you work to find the right place in your relationship for the insanity. Here are my top three guidelines for creating success with Sports Fanatics:
EMBRACE IT: Being a sports fan is about loyalty. It’s about fidelity during bad seasons and relentless celebration and pride during good seasons. I have found that great sports fans bring that same energy, faithfulness and “team pride” to their relationships. I wouldn't be surprised if you found that he has also had some great friends for more than twenty years. This is a great characteristic in a man!
FIND A WAY TO PARTICIPATE: You are getting very clear messages from your potential match that certain sports and particular teams are important to him. Whether it's some path back to his formative youth or the testeronic thrill of competition, he has said to you “this is part of what makes me happy.” Find out why he loves it – you may actually find out that the stories of struggle and triumph have inspired his professional success, or links to his relationship with his father give you a greater appreciation for the man he is.
ALIGN WITH IT: I know a lovely couple (getting married in August!) and the guy surfs everyday. Not “a couple of days a week” or even “as often as he can”, but short of visible sharks in the water or gale-force-winds, he's in the water every morning. She loves to travel. Over the past few years they've traveled to some of the most beautiful countries in the world…that also happen to have great surfing. They've figured out how to line up their passions and have them reinforce each other!
So don’t lament the custom team jerseys, what seem like pointless conversations about how many days rest a pitcher needs, or roll your eyes when asks you to name the four ways to get to first base without hitting the ball – embrace it, participate and align!