Coach Mike Krzyzewski is the winningest D1 coach in NCAA history. When he passed Bobby Knight to take the number one spot, he shared a handful of "lessons for success" that apply as directly to finding "the One" as they do to leading great basketball
#1: Thrive on Focus and Priorities If you are only partially commited to finding the right match, you might as well not be looking at all. If you look at how you're spending your time, mental effort and resources to find "the One" and it doesn't line up with what you believe your priorities are, then either you are not being honest with yourself about priorities, or you need to change your actions.
#2: Help People Know Where they Fit in the Big Picture When you meet someone special and begin to believe the two of you may have long term potential, let her know the reasons why in order to build a strong bond. Don't tell her she's fun, tell her you want a life full of adventure and she sparks that in you. Don't tell her she's smart, let her know you want children to respect their mother for her intelligence, not just her homemaking skills. Don't tell her she's pretty, well, OK, some things don't need to be tied to the bigger picture, but make sure you are specific about the things about her you think are pretty
#3: Everything Requires Practice and Preparation You may consider yourself a great dater. You could be better. You may believe you are a superior conversationalist. Even the best speakers prepare relentlessly. The more you plan for great experiences with your dates (women love a man with a plan) and prepare to engage them at every level, the more success you will have as you meet new women.