Do you feel like your relationship is missing something? Does it feel like the spark has fled the romance and drained the partnership of its novelty and excitement? Sadly, many couples work too hard to really enjoy time spent
together. Both spouses constantly remain in movement, feeling that if they are not doing something productive, the time is being wasted. This approach to marriage is very similar to the way in which we approach work, which most people would argue is the absolute wrong way to approach a relationship. We can all agree that great relationships take a lot of work, but turning a marriage into all work and no play makes for a dull partnership indeed. The secret to keeping your relationship interesting and vibrant is not as complex as many would have you think – simply by learning to have fun with your spouse, your relationship will grow stronger than ever.
Very few people in the Western world marry a person that they do not enjoy spending time with. After all, one of the driving forces behind marriage is the desire two people have to spend time enjoying life with one another. It makes sense then that the best way to keep a marriage happy is to continue enjoying time with one another. Here are a few tips for keeping fun in the relationship.
Prioritize the Partnership: We have all heard the phrase, “A happy wife makes for a happy life.” If anything rhymed with “happy husband,” it is almost a certainty that there would be a similar phrase for men as well. Though often used in jest by men, there is much truth in, “A happy wife makes for a happy life.” Whenever making any major decisions in the relationship, always consult your spouse first. These can be decisions as small as inviting your boss over for dinner or as large as donating to a charity or buying a new vehicle. It is better to have your spouse’s blessing before making a decision than fighting about it later, especially when the decision concerns both spouses. Remember, your marriage is a partnership and it will benefit when both people are on the same page. Make your significant other the most important person in your life and the relationship with them above all other relationships and activities. This does not mean that every waking moment must be devoted to them, but they should certainly at least be in the back of your mind.
Stop Worrying: It is impossible for any relationship to be bereft of struggles, quarrels and stress. As a couple, learn what you can control and what you cannot, and resolve to let the tough times strengthen your bond. When your focus is on protecting your relationship, all other difficulties pale in comparison to what matters. As long as you have each other, everything will be mostly okay.
Share Everything: After a long day communicating with coworkers and others involved in your life, the last you thing you may want to do in the evening is talk to another person. Yet the communication between spouses can be one of the most relaxing and rewarding moments in your day if you know how to use it. Set aside some time every day to share the events of the day with each other. Celebrate each other’s successes for the day and comfort each other over the more frustrating times. Turn down the outside noise and relish each other’s company for that time. Not only will you feel more relaxed and ready to take on the evening’s challenges, but your relationship has the chance to grow stronger as well.
We have more tips for creating a fun-filled successful relationship that lasts and will be sharing them next week, so stay tuned.