Matchmaking for the Rich + Famous

Posted by Amber Kelleher on Jun 12, 2012 5:23:00 AM

Many of our clients have been on the covers of famous magazines, and although we never discuss our clientele, for as long as I can remember there have been rumors about specific celebrities we work with. The Kelleher International network is full of singles at the top of their game

-- and that game might be sports, entertainment, business, academics or philanthropy. Most of our clients aren't Hollywood famous -- there aren't enough of them to have a very big network -- but a couple of times a week some potential new client asks me "What's it like to be a matchmaker for someone famous, like Jennifer Aniston?" (One of the most persistent, but obviously out-of-date, rumors).

The simple answer: it's 100% the same as matching anyone else in our network. Some of the details might be slightly different, but the approach is the same.

Step One: just like with any of our clients, we asses if the celebrity is interested in a relationship, not just dating. I hate using the term "marriage minded" because it conjures up all kinds of arranged-marriage images, but we have to be sure a client is "in it to win it" before we set them up on any introductions. One common condition that afflicts celebrities is the impact of years of people telling them how spectacular they are. The technical term is Acquired Narcissism Syndrome, but more simply, some celebs have lost the ability to form that initial equal-to-equal emotional connection. If a celebrity isn't ready to join our network, then we hold off on any introductions until there is a change in their situation.

Step Two: We work with the potential client to set some priorities and parameters. Do they want children? Will they be out-of-town six months of the year? Do they have a religious preference? How would they rank adventurous, academic, well-traveled, funny, etc. in what attracts them to someone? These are all the same topics we work through with anyone, and in particular we press celebrities to come up with some hard answers to these questions in light of their current career and how those answers might change if things got better or worse.

Step Three: Once we understand the celebrity client's commitment to a relationship and their self-awareness of relationship priorities, we do add an extra step before completing a match. We identify a handful of matches and then have a pre-match discussion with them to evaluate their interest/ability to have a "normal" date with a celebrity. Most couples have to navigate the waters of feeling like equals between each other, it's an entirely different dynamic to understand how that might play out against the dynamics of public fame. Rande Gerber is a wildly successful businessman, but to most he's just Mr. Cindy Crawford.

Step Four: Match!

Whether you have a hit TV show, platinum album or are currently batting .395, we know how to find love for you the same as we do if you just had an IPO, received a Fields Medal or completed your fourth trans-Pacific sailing race.

Topics: Relationships

Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.

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Jill & Amber