Featured Matchmaker: Cathy
I’m going out on dates with women 10-15 years younger than I am – how can I seem “younger” to them?
Let’s get some vocabulary straight. To many women, a "younger man" translates to inexperienced, naïve, unworldly and un-achieved. The concept you are looking for is “youthful”, which is about high-energy, aspirations and optimism. Don’t underestimate the power of distinguished, accomplished and successful for attracting women of any age; but it's okay to want to brush up on how to put Father Time in his place.
Before we go any farther, let’s take a couple of tactics off the table: no graphics tees, no front row tickets to Li’l Wayne, and certainly don’t run out and take a dozen snowboard lessons. If you're not genuine, a woman will see through it in a heartbeat and you won’t be headed down the right path. However, here are three actions you can take to put a spring in your step.
DO STUFF. Take her to a ballgame. Drive down the coast. Go and pick strawberries. When she tells her girlfriends “We’re ALWAYS doing something!” she is really saying “my man is high energy and youthful.”
ASPIRE FOR THE FUTURE. One of the casualties of age is the disappearance of “someday I think I’ll…” Reintroduce this, but with the “upgrade” that comes with your station – “someday I want to go to Europe” becomes “someday I’ll take six months and take the Orient Express, first class through Asia” or better yet, “someday we will take the Orient Express”. Forward-looking aspirational statements will send all the right messages.
BE SPONTANEOUS AND FLEXIBLE. One of the most glaring signs of age is being stuck in a rigid routine. Oh, you might justify it by claiming "But I know what I like!" And that may very well be the case. But it's time to rekindle that adventuresome spirit, and be willing to try something new -- or retry old things again. Shake up your idea of normal, be it dropping your "usual" dinner time, or how you "usually" spend a Sunday. You may just surprise yourself with the thrill of trying new things next to this new, hot romantic interest.
Focus on being youthful, not young, and you'll find love!
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