Preparing for Happiness

Posted by Amber Kelleher on May 25, 2010 3:00:00 AM

There was a great article this past weekend in the New York Times titled “The Science of a Happy Marriage”, which is an article about

tracking the science of commitment.

The 10-second summary of the article is that while there may be some people that have a natural predisposition to either embrace or reject temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment.

Here are some of my favorite points from the long series of research studies the article cited.

  • Men who had considered and rehearsed a response to a come-on from an attractive stranger were 37% more likely to completed
  • Couples that identify feelings of “self-expansion” with their partner are less receptive to outside solicitation
  • Couples that share hard-won successes experience increases in both love and relationship satisfaction

As I read this article I began to think about how I might translate these research insights into practical advice for our clients. One of our most important roles at Kelleher International is coaching our clients to help them be even more successful in finding "the One". If I had to re-write the article with insights for the marriage-minded, I would say:

  • If you are in a blossoming relationship, take a moment to consider how you might engage an unexpected new prospect – this will help you make sure you treat your new romance with the respect it deserves
  • Finding a partner that complements you, not duplicates you, creates the greatest relationship potential
  • Fun, active dates stimulate and create potential for satisfaction growth – hike a challenging trail and your new romance will take on the feeling of that success

Romance isn't a science, but it's great to take the research and learnings from others and see how they can apply to our own romance strategies!

You can read the article in its entirety (here).

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