Questions which predict first-date sex...

Posted by Amber Kelleher on Apr 10, 2011 1:00:00 AM

Ladies -- you think about it as you make certain "wardrobe choices" as you get dressed for the night. Gentleman -- you think about it all through the date.

Will there be first date sex?

A research team asked tens of thousands of "first daters" about their evening -- food eaten, source of introduction, topics of conversation -- and have boiled down some important questions to ask to increase your odds of first-date-sex. I would probably call it more "funny" than "factual", but it makes for a humourous read. Here are some highlights from the study:

First dates are awkward. There is so much you want to know about the person across the table from you, and yet so little you can directly ask.

This post is our attempt to end the mystery. We took OkCupid's database of 275,294 match questions—probably the biggest collection of relationship concerns on earth—and the 776 million answers people have given us, and we asked:

What questions are easy to bring up, yet correlate to the deeper, unspeakable, issues people actually care about?

Love, sex, a soulmate, an argument, whatever you're looking for, we'll show you the polite questions to find it. We hope they'll be useful to you in the real world.

First—define "easy to bring up"

Before we could go looking for correlations to deeper stuff, our first task was to decide which questions were even first-date appropriate. I know each person has his own opinion on what's okay to talk about with a stranger. I also know that if I had to wade through hundreds of thousands of user-submitted questions like these verbatim examples:

If you were to be eaten by cannibal, how would you like to be prepared?

Q: do u own 3 or more dildos in your room?

Q: Do you have a decent job?

So, instead of judging each question's first-date appropriateness subjectively, I turned to statistics. I decided our candidates were the ones that (a) most people were comfortable discussing publicly, and (b) were mathematically likely to tell you something you couldn't just guess. I sliced OkCupid's question pool like this:

That blue rectangle is our highest-quality, least-invasive questions, and we next examined each of them for interesting correlations. (If you're interested in knowing more about the above graph, you can drop-down an explanation here, complete with an interactive scatter plot that took me forever to make.)

Now let's get right to the results. This is the shallow stuff to ask when you want to know something deep.


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