Dating and Courtship: Which is Right For You

Posted by Kelleher International on Apr 7, 2017 9:32:09 AM

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In modern dating, it can be difficult to differentiate between people who are in it for fun and those who want to stick around for the long haul. Depending on where you are in your life and where you see your future going, either one of these may be a good fit for you. Just out of a relationship or marriage and looking to let loose? Then dating is your calling. On the other hand, if you’re ready to settle down and think about starting a family, then courtship may be what you seek. Our matchmakers have put together a list of the fundamental differences between dating and courtship.

Fun vs. Future

There’s nothing wrong with sticking with dating if you’re just looking to let off some steam and have some fun. Not everyone is ready to consider marriage or serious relationships so dating may be the perfect choice for you. It keeps your life fun and flirty while also letting you settle into any decisions of the future. However, if visions of nesting and settling down are occupying your mind, then you should be looking for courtship. Courting is all about the future. And if you know that's where you are, then start looking for men and women who are in a similar mindset. Our matchmakers can make this a priority when matching you with your potential dates, so remember to mention it during your interview.

Physical Intimacy vs. Emotional Intimacy

In today’s society, it’s pretty typical for couples to become physically intimate while dating. It has become much more socially acceptable to have sex before marriage as it has many benefits, including stress relief and finding out what kind of lover you prefer. Sex can still be a part of courting, but emotional intimacy becomes much more a priority than physical intimacy. You start to focus more on each other’s needs and dive deep to reach a higher level of understanding. There are benefits to both choices so if you’re not ready for one then feel free to explore the other channel.

Alone Time vs. Family Time

When you begin to date, couples tend to want to spend a lot of alone time together; romantic getaways, dinner at your favorite restaurants, galas, and jet-setting - your life becomes about how fast the two of you can paint the town red. The family rarely becomes an issue, as you’ll more than likely spend major holidays with your respective families. Courtship, however, becomes a family ordeal. You want to introduce them and include them in photos, outings, family reunions, and trips. These activities will allow you to see how you both blend in family gatherings and expose both of your true feelings about the future. You are essentially letting your family know that this person could be a potential marriage partner and let them adjust accordingly.

Both courting and dating are viable options for singles everywhere. Choosing a path isn't black or white. You're free to explore both and move from one to the other at various intersections of your life. Whichever you choose, the matchmakers at Kelleher International can find someone who is in the same mindset as you. Our lists include executives, celebrities, and top professionals, so you won’t have to worry about a lack of matches. Contact us today to find your perfect partner.

Topics: relationship advice, Relationships

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