It’s important to periodically pause and examine the important personal and professional relationships in your life. How are you showing up for them? Are you feeling rapport? Is the connection fulfilling? Could things be better?
Knowing there’s no right or wrong way to be in a relationship or marriage, it’s important to understand there are key ingredients to ensure those partnerships in your life are strong, happy and healthy. The Kelleher International matchmakers share their experience to help you hone healthy relationships.
Build a solid foundation from the start. There’s no substitute for open, honest communication in the construction of a rock solid relationship. Plainly express your needs and expectations and understand those of your partner. If you aren’t clear, ask. If you don’t feel heard or appreciated, speak up and express yourself - but strive to do so in a manner that represents your best self.
Respect yourself and each other. Mutual respect provides a clean canvas from which you and your partner can create an authentic relationship. Both of your feelings are valid and deserve space to be felt and considered. Openly acknowledging each other’s perspective is a loving act of respect.
Always be willing to compromise. Disagreements are inevitable; it’s how you handle them that makes all the difference. As Bruce Lee said, “Be water, my friend.” Be willing to relax in the flow and release the rigidity that there’s only one path or right way of being and doing things to achieve progress. Compromise is an important life skill to develop that leads to personal and professional success.
Be supportive. We each choose a different path for our life and set out on a unique journey. Sometimes you and your partner will feel bold and self-assured, but when those feelings waiver don’t be afraid to vocalize your need for support. Do you need them to listen? Offer advice? Be a cheerleader? Ask for exactly what you need and be willing to reciprocate when your partner finds themself in a similar situation. Remember, we each have our own way of handling trials and tribulations. Offer a judgment free space for your partner and your relationship will flourish.
Find peace in space. A lot happens in the absence of togetherness. Trust that space is there to give your relationship the breathing room it needs to grow. Celebrate each other’s individuality. Respect each other’s privacy. And enjoy the feeling of missing one another. Space will expand the connectedness you’ll feel when you are together as the time you have will be more precious.
Evaluate your current relationships against these foundational elements of a healthy connection. What small shifts can you make to improve the quality of your relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.