Finding real love and connection at any age isn’t easy, but as the years turn to gold finding a partner can become more difficult. With the aging baby boomer population, it is expected that by 2050, one in five people will be over the age of 60, which would equate to approximately 2 billion seniors around the world. Yet, the idea of dating portrayed in the media offers us images of youth and superficial beauty. Such ideas can be powerful, sucking the hope of actually finding love in the golden years out of many amazing (and eligible) men and women.
Cathy Lewis, California matchmaker extraordinaire for Kelleher International shared her insight on over-60 dating as it happens in real life.
Her favorite part of the job as a matchmaker is finding true love for KI’s senior clients. And as it turns out, the process ismuch the same as with Kelleher’s younger client base, with a few slight differences, of course. “Dating is like riding a bike, you might be a little rusty, but after a couple of dates, you find your legs. And you never get too old to flirt,” Cathy said.
As a matchmaker, Cathy admits age is always the biggest hurdle to making an introduction. Turns out, neither men nor women outgrow their knee-jerk reaction to draw a line in the sand on age. She laughed, rolled her eyes, and threw her hands in the air, “Age is just a number! And age is certainly not what we should be focused on when searching for true love.”
Cathy shared her latest and favorite golden age match. A male client in his early seventies was ready to give up on this matchmaking business and settle into being alone. His marriage hadn’t worked out, and he’d spent many years looking for a new life partner. He’d decided his chance was over.
At the same time, Cathy was coaching a lovely woman in her early sixties to get back out there. The woman seemed content to live alone in the new condo she’d just purchased and spend her golden years surrounded by good friends and loved ones. She was married twice, and things hadn’t worked out. Her perception was that she’d had her chance and now accepted her future of growing old alone. Cathy explained she was just too lovely and full of life to give up on love.
Matchmaking takes skill, intuition, persistence, and a little bit of luck - all things Cathy possesses. Cathy successfully brought the vibrant nurse onboard and arranged a few dates which were a huge confidence booster and reminded the lovely woman that she still wanted to find love and share her life with someone. The next hurdle Cathy successfully jumped was getting her to go out with a “young” seventy-one-year-old. The chemistry was immediate, they moved in together a month later, and they were engaged a few months after that. The woman never moved into her new condo. She sold it instead and is now living happily ever after with her golden Prince Charming.
Which brings us to the glaring difference between love connections for clients in their prime versus those in their golden years, TIME and PERSPECTIVE.
When you don’t have a chance to waste, you don’t. Seniors are familiar with regret and are less likely to let another opportunity at love slip through their fingers. Retirement can be a lonely place if you aren't sharing it with someone.
“It brings me such joy connecting our senior clients,” Cathy gushed. “This is the most important match of their lives. It’s not the person they’re ramping up with, but the person they’re slowing down with, who they’ll share with their families and grandchildren, and who will be by their side as they grow old and become more vulnerable and truly need each other.”
If you’re a mature single feeling disenchanted with online dating or paralyzed with fear at the thought of actually going on a date, we have a host of matchmaking mavens who understand where you are in life and will hold your hand along the way. “Why go through this journey alone when you can have a matchmaker do the hard part for you? We are love experts. Let us help.” We encourage you to listen to Cathy. Give us a call, and we’ll talk you through the process.