When it comes to honest advice about marriage, there is no one more qualified to give advice than actual married couples. Divorce lawyers and marriage therapists can offer intellectual opinions, but relationships really have to be experienced to truly understand them. Part three of this three-part series on relationship advice seeks to offer a real-world perspective for making relationships work even when high-powered careers get in the way.
Actor Kevin Bacon and his wife, actress Kyra Sedgwick stress the importance of intimacy in a good relationship. "You have to keep the fights clean and the sex dirty," Bacon says. Various studies show that regardless of age, couples who are physically intimate report increased happiness in their relationships. Sedgwick doesn’t mince words when it comes to the couple’s love life, "I'm going to embarrass my kids – sex is important. Sex is really important."
Tom Hanks says of his wife, actress-singer Rita Wilson, what every matchmaker from NYC to San Francisco is thinking: “My secret to a happy marriage is just being married to the right woman.” The proof is in the pudding; Hanks and Wilson have been happily married for nearly 30 years!
David Beckham and his wife, Victoria Beckham, have been married for more than 15 years. The secret to their success apparently lies in small gestures of love. “If you love someone, you want to treat them, surprise them, [and] remind them how you feel, whether that means a weekend away somewhere, or a bowl of fruit in the morning laid out in the shape of a heart. Me and Victoria will always stay together as husband and wife. We’ll always stick together.”
Pierce Brosnan agrees that the little things really do enhance the romance in a relationship. "I love romance: I bring Keely breakfast in bed on a tray with a single flower from our garden. I did that when we first started dating, and I still do it." Journalist, author and television host Keely Shaye Smith is one lucky lady!
Barack and Michelle Obama are notorious for taking time out of their busy schedules for date nights. The United States President is clearly still enamored by his wife of 21 years, “Obviously I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done without Michelle. Not only has she been a great first lady, she is just my rock. I count on her in so many ways every single day.”
As for those who are not married? The United States’ 66th Secretary of State, Condoleezza Rice, has the perfect response. In an interview with Piers Morgan, she stated, "I've always said that I expected to grow up and get married like any nice southern girl, but the fact is you don't get married in the abstract. You find someone that you'd like to be married to."
The best matchmaking services in the world take Rice’s advice to heart: a couple should be matched based on compatibility – not simply for the sake of finding companionship. If the right person hasn’t come along, it’s not a sign to marry some random stranger, but rather an opportunity to invest in professional matchmaking services with an executive matchmaker who knows relationships inside and out. Your Kelleher International matchmaker is like your own personal wingman. He or she gives you advice, advocates for you, and remains personally invested in the outcomes of your dates.