The biggest challenge we face as matchmakers is what to do when a couple is so clearly meant to be together, but they live hundreds (or thousands) of miles apart. Generally our clients have already specified whether they would like to date local or consider international options as well, but you really can’t fight love. Sometimes long distance relationships are just meant to be.
When our intuition really pushes for a couple to be together, we absolutely let them know. Kelleher International wouldn’t be one of the best matchmaking services in the world if our matchmakers didn’t follow their hearts as well as their heads! The question our clients inevitably have, though, is how to make the relationship work despite the distance. Our answer is simple: if this is the right match for you, it will work out – and if modern science has anything to say about it, your relationship might be closer and more intimate than traditional relationships!
Karen Blair, University of Utah psychology and author of a Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy study says, “being further apart from your partner changes how you interact with them and forces you to work on some of the areas of relationship maintenance that geographically close couples may take for granted, and often overlook.”
The same study actually had real life couples rate their satisfaction with intimacy, commitment, communication, and even sexual satisfaction. The surprising results found that couples in long distance relationships were at no disadvantage compared to couples in traditional dating situations. In fact, couples in long distance relationships were more likely to talk about sex, which helped build intimacy even though couples were not physically close to one another.
Modern technology certainly doesn’t hurt your chances, either. Today, couples have more options than ever to keep in touch even while separated. Popular tools include:
Consider also that missing someone can create its own benefits – and pitfalls. Couples in long distance relationships are more likely to share major positive events in their lives instead of focusing on small details. This creates the illusion of an “extraordinary” relationship with a powerful bond. On the other hand, couples in long distance relationships are more likely to idealize their partners and assume their partner shares all of their own thoughts and feelings. This is a great coping mechanism for couples who are apart, but can lead to a harsh reality check when you are together again and your “perfect partner” becomes a real person with their own thoughts and feelings again.
The point is to pick your partner carefully when considering a long distance relationship. A compatible match stands a much better chance of success than one that hasn’t been meticulously researched and selected just for you. Do not be afraid of long distance relationships. Sometimes love is worth the risk! After all, we would never recommend an introduction if we didn’t absolutely feel it was in your best interest. Don’t you owe it to yourself to give love a chance – no matter where you find it? Expand your search for love with the best matchmaking team in the industry. Our international matchmakers are excited to start this journey with you!