Insecurity can be especially paralyzing while searching for your someone. Each of our lives is a melting pot of ups and downs and game-changing events which create very distinct quirks and insecurities in us all - even the most successful and confident in the room. The Kelleher International matchmakers work intently with clients to face and challenge their insecurities readying them to meet their match. This week we’re sharing our thoughts on insecurity and what you can do to shift lanes and begin dating with confidence.
Women agree they want to fall for Mr. Nice Guy, but they may be less vocal about the reasons they so often fall for the quintessential bad boy instead. We all know choosing the brooding bachelor doesn’t typically lead to a successful relationship. Fortunately, with life experience and relationship maturity, women grow out of the desire to be with this guy. Once women evolve, they yearn for someone trustworthy and confident who is genuinely interested in getting to know them.
The Kelleher International matchmakers weigh in with some tips from the bad boy playbook, so you nice guys can get the girl.
If we eliminate the ego’s race for wealth, fame, and fortune and drill down to our core desires as human beings, we all want the same things - To feel joy, love, and inclusion. As matchmakers, one of the most important elements of our job is to help you get out of your own way so you can realize those things.
The Law of Attraction can be your biggest friend or foe. It depends on where you stand on the idea that you are a powerful creator whose thoughts influence your reality. Many reject the idea that they control their destiny and discount the Law of Attraction as hokey. But, it's as real as the Law of Gravity.
We get that it’s a big responsibility to accept the notion and quite another to put it into practice. To help you dive in, the Kelleher International matchmakers have assembled the easiest, direct path to attaining what your desire.
As the years go by, we learn the art of taking things slow and savoring the waiting. Of course, we’ll still take the whirlwind and sparks of a summertime romance any day. We sat down with Kelleher International matchmaker, Sonya Robinson to get her take on love, no matter the season, and what you can do to have a summer that sizzles.
One of the biggest challenges individuals face after going through a divorce is rebuilding trust. If you had previous trust issues, going through a divorce can significantly increase those feeling and dramatically change how you view yourself and relationships in general.
Regardless of the reason for the split, divorce can set the foundation for mistrust in future relationships – even if the ability to trust was never an issue before. It’s easy to doubt yourself and your ability to trust others after a marriage ends badly, which will affect how you act in subsequent relationships. This doubt and mistrust can manifest itself in many different ways - from feeling your partner is dishonest or secretive, to questioning their promises and dependability.
After a split do you find yourself believing the worst about relationships and fearing that you can’t hold onto love no matter what you do? It’s time to take back your life and make a positive change by following these six tips to repair trust after a divorce.
Are you in love or lust?
Many studies show a brain in lust looks exactly like a brain on drugs. The powerful surge of hormones that comes from this form of infatuation can inadvertently cause you to project an idealized version of your partner onto them instead of accepting the real person, flaws and all. Though pure lust is based primarily on physical attraction and fantasy, it will more than likely dissipate once the “real person” surfaces. However, that doesn't mean lust cannot lead to love. Time is the ultimate judge of that. As the new wears off and two people begin to know each other more deeply, feelings of genuine love and adoration can bloom. Here are some tips from our Los Angeles matchmakers to help you differentiate lust from love and use your intuition to make better decisions regarding your relationship.
For years, relationship gurus, psychologists and matchmakers have recommended more optimism in relationships. Couples who proactively practice an optimistic attitude are happier, more willing to try new things, and not afraid of what the future holds. Thinking on the bright side might seem impossible, especially if one or both of you are not optimistic by nature. Don’t worry! Our matchmakers have compiled a guide to help you harness the power of optimism and bring it into your budding relationship.
When most people think about the qualities of a successful relationship, they generally focus on selflessness, accountability, the ability to compromise, thoughtfulness, trust, flexibility, patience, etc. However, there is one other trait that often goes overlooked: courage. This is a quintessential part of any successful, long-lasting relationship, and it factors into so much more than just working up the nerve to ask someone on a first date. Here are some tips from our matchmakers to help you discover your own courage when navigating the sometimes tricky dating scene.
Attraction is the biggest stepping stone in any relationship. The biggest house, newest car and most successful career are all great, but hold little bearing when it comes to whether your date will actually find you attractive. There are a few traits we’ve noticed all women seem to love in a man – and these traits are surprisingly difficult to cultivate. The few men who do possess these qualities find their dating pools are much larger, which ultimately leads to more control over their own dating lives and an easier time finding the woman they have dreamed of. Want to become irresistible? Here are our recommendations:
It feels like some women just have all the luck. There’s always going to be that flirty blonde who seems to know exactly what to do and say to capture a man’s attention. The truth is you don’t have to be a Victoria’s Secret model to attract a man. There are, however, a few things the girl who gets the guy does differently to make herself so attractive. Professional matchmakers have all the details you need to turn your love life around and make yourself irresistible to the opposite sex. Take a peek into the secrets of the girl who always gets the guy – and steal her tips for yourself!
Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.
We’ll talk about strategies for dating success, navigating relationship land mines, and the mindset it takes to find love and make it blossom. We will put current events in the context of seeking love and even give you a little window into the match making business and how a centuries-old tradition continues to evolve in our modern world. The “right one” is out there for you, so check back weekly for updates or follow us on Twitter to make the most of our partnership in your future.
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Jill & Amber