If you’ve ever flubbed up while finally making your move or felt a rush of regret after sending a text message to a love interest, then you know how tricky dating is. You also understand the unspoken dating rules and for better or worse find yourself following them.
Play it cool. Appear somewhat disinterested.
Don’t call too soon.
Don’t be too available.
Be the one to end the conversation or the date.
Don’t text too eagerly.
Don’t send the last text in the chain.
It’s understandable that singles feel like dating is more of a game and less of a journey to find love. How are you to know if someone is playing hard to get or if they’re just not that into you? And what if you like someone? Are you supposed to pretend you don’t? Do you resort to playing games only to follow the unspoken laws of courtship? As matchmakers, we sometimes find ourselves helping clients untangle the webs of confusion created by dating games and sexist rules.