This week at Kelleher International, we’re celebrating two of our veteran matchmakers. Pamela Nolen and Nilda Renteria have been leading the charge in our Dallas office for ten years. We asked these matchmaking mavens to reflect on the importance of their role as matchmakers and to share some basic do’s and don’ts to get the most out of your next dating experience.
Let’s be honest. None of us know how the story ends, yet we spend so much of our lives speculating and trying to control the path. Inevitably we feel quite certain we indeed know “exactly how this is going to go.” It’s part of the human condition.
And there’s no area of life where we do this more than in romantic love.
Even for the most put together person killing it in business, finding footing in love can feel like navigating treacherous terrain. Some days you feel powerful and hopeful and ready to embrace the world. You put yourself out there, smile, engage, and stay open to the possibilities. Some days you wake up, look over at the pillow next to you with a tender ache to have a soulful connection with someone and then spend the rest of the day fighting the Eeyore effect. The uncertainty can be overwhelming. We get it.
So, what gives? You might be wondering.
What can you do to set yourself up for success in love and matchmaking?
Technically speaking, the process of dating is two people getting to know each other and testing compatibility with the intention of pursuing a relationship. Whether you’re just getting serious about settling down for the first time, or barely getting back into the dating game after a divorce, keep these tips in mind on your next date to increase your odds of success.
Dating when you have kids can be complicated, especially if you’re getting back into the dating scene after a divorce. As your feelings grow and you begin to picture a future with your new partner, you no doubt have questions about when the right time is to introduce them to your children. Before doing so, think about how your children and partner will react when they are brought together. Will your partner think things are moving too quickly or do your children still harbor the hope of you and your ex getting back together? Before taking the plunge, here are five tips from our matchmakers for dating after divorce when you have kids.
One of our clients recently wrote to our matchmaking agency in a complete panic: he had been on two dates with the woman of his dreams. She was smart, shared his passion for business and the two of them even supported the same charities. They had been at the same fundraiser the year prior and didn’t even realize it! The problem came when his date mentioned that her birthday was coming up – that weekend. Our client wanted to know whether it was appropriate to get his date a gift this early in the relationship and, if so, how to get her something meaningful without scaring her away.
The holidays are a time to celebrate with the people you hold dear in life. They are especially meaningful when you have special someone around who can share in your excitement about the holiday season. Our matchmaking agency gets especially busy this time of year because the holidays make people want to seek out someone to share the season with them. Because of this “holiday rush,” many couples have only just begun dating and are still testing the waters with their new partner. Navigate the holiday season like a pro this year with our tips for the best holiday outfits, gifts and even ideas to spend quality time together.
With the holidays approaching, many new couples will be faced with an awkward question: how soon is too soon to meet your partner’s family? While our matchmakers generally recommend waiting at least a few months before taking that giant leap, there really is no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples report a great experience introducing their significant other to family members after only a few dates while others need a year (or two) to make that kind of commitment. Our matchmaking agency has a quick guide to help you decide if this is the right time to take the plunge:
Baby, it’s cold outside . . . but your love life can still sizzle! Cuffing season has arrived and you may already be partaking in the festivities without even realizing it. Our matchmakers delved into the elusive dating practices that take place during cuffing season to offer you the latest and greatest survival guide. With Kelleher International by your side, it’s easy to get through the colder seasons with your heart intact.
New York City is saturated with single people, but unfortunately they are not all ready to mingle. In addition to an already imbalanced male-to-female ratio in NYC, today’s culture does not always promote lasting love. The problem is no longer finding someone – it’s about finding the right one. Our matchmakers have all the tools necessary to help locate that one perfect person in NYC who is on your level emotionally, physically and intellectually.
Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.
We’ll talk about strategies for dating success, navigating relationship land mines, and the mindset it takes to find love and make it blossom. We will put current events in the context of seeking love and even give you a little window into the match making business and how a centuries-old tradition continues to evolve in our modern world. The “right one” is out there for you, so check back weekly for updates or follow us on Twitter to make the most of our partnership in your future.
Let us come with you on your journey!
Jill & Amber