With age comes life experience and often mid-life can bring jolting change. Separation, divorce, or the unexpected loss of a spouse can cause a chain reaction of what feels like the unraveling of a life you spent years building. But once you’ve processed the past and are ready for the next chapter why does dating seem so challenging?
One of the biggest challenges individuals face after going through a divorce is rebuilding trust. If you had previous trust issues, going through a divorce can significantly increase those feeling and dramatically change how you view yourself and relationships in general.
Regardless of the reason for the split, divorce can set the foundation for mistrust in future relationships – even if the ability to trust was never an issue before. It’s easy to doubt yourself and your ability to trust others after a marriage ends badly, which will affect how you act in subsequent relationships. This doubt and mistrust can manifest itself in many different ways - from feeling your partner is dishonest or secretive, to questioning their promises and dependability.
After a split do you find yourself believing the worst about relationships and fearing that you can’t hold onto love no matter what you do? It’s time to take back your life and make a positive change by following these six tips to repair trust after a divorce.
Anyone over the age of 40 could probably tell a few stories about a time when they were age-shamed for seeking love outside of the “typical” 20 to 30-something window. It’s a common misconception that anyone still single after a certain age is undesirable, rather than someone who chose instead to focus on their career, travel or personal passions. Our matchmakers have worked with enough clients to know that people follow many different journeys in life and none are really better or worse than the others. Everything depends on your personal priorities and goals in life. This is why our matchmaking agency is devoted to helping couples find lasting relationships with someone who really understands them. In fact, there are quite a few benefits to dating after the age of 40.
What if we said it was okay to fall in love with two people at the same time? Marriage traditionalists might retch at the thought, but the truth is we live in a world where blended families and complicated situations rule the dating scene. Romantic comedies pitch the concept that falling in love with two people ruins relationships, but the truth is it can strengthen your bond over time and build an unbreakable foundation for a healthy future. They key is to make sure the two people you fall in love with are your significant other and his or her child.
After a divorce, the overwhelming feeling of becoming an “I” as opposed to a “we” slowly starts to sink in. Loneliness, pain, confusion and anger are all possible effects of legal separation. However, it is important to remember that a divorce does not equal a life of seclusion. Over time, the prospect of dating again will begin to surface. At Kelleher International, we understand just how pivotal a divorce is to your life. That is why we are here to help address one important question: Are you ready to date after divorce?
Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.
We’ll talk about strategies for dating success, navigating relationship land mines, and the mindset it takes to find love and make it blossom. We will put current events in the context of seeking love and even give you a little window into the match making business and how a centuries-old tradition continues to evolve in our modern world. The “right one” is out there for you, so check back weekly for updates or follow us on Twitter to make the most of our partnership in your future.
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Jill & Amber