In a vast dating pool, how do you rise to the surface and discover your match? At Kelleher, we find many of our clients open to doing whatever it takes to find their person. They’re willing to dive in and do the hard work, but the key to relationship success isn’t as complicated as most think.
Finding real love and connection at any age isn’t easy, but as the years turn to gold finding a partner can become more difficult. With the aging baby boomer population, it is expected that by 2050, one in five people will be over the age of 60, which would equate to approximately 2 billion seniors around the world. Yet, the idea of dating portrayed in the media offers us images of youth and superficial beauty. Such ideas can be powerful, sucking the hope of actually finding love in the golden years out of many amazing (and eligible) men and women.
Cathy Lewis, California matchmaker extraordinaire for Kelleher International shared her insight on over-60 dating as it happens in real life.
As much time as we spend contemplating things, you could say we spend most of our lives living in our own heads. Our relationship with self is the longest and most intimate of any we will ever have, and it’s the one we should always trust the most. That inner voice, sometimes referred to as our “larger self” helps us navigate through life and establish our values. Unfortunately, it can also cause quite a bit of over-thinking when it comes to love.
Complete certainty, when it comes to love, is impossible. Humans are crazy creatures, constantly making decisions, experiencing things, growing and evolving on a never ending loop. When two of these humans get together, they’re both on their own wheel of evolution attempting to move in sync with their partners. You can see how expecting certainty in that situation is quite impractical. So what does that mean for you? You have to embrace uncertainty. It’s scary, and sometimes painful, but more often than not, it’s exhilarating, life-affirming, and exactly where the magic happens.
Follow these tips from our matchmakers to banish some of the biggest bi-products of uncertainty and let your love shine!
When most people think about the qualities of a successful relationship, they generally focus on selflessness, accountability, the ability to compromise, thoughtfulness, trust, flexibility, patience, etc. However, there is one other trait that often goes overlooked: courage. This is a quintessential part of any successful, long-lasting relationship, and it factors into so much more than just working up the nerve to ask someone on a first date. Here are some tips from our matchmakers to help you discover your own courage when navigating the sometimes tricky dating scene.
If you have fallen in love with someone that loves you in return, then asking her to marry you should be the next step in the equation. This is a moment both of you will remember for the rest of your life, and you won’t get a second chance to make it perfect. The stakes have never been higher. If she accepts, she’s bound to face endless questions from friends and family about every detail of the proposal, from the salad dressing to the flowers you chose to the way your eyes shone. She’ll be describing the event for weeks and months to come, so perfecting the proposal is your first step to pulling off a memorable moment. Our expert matchmakers have come up with infallible “to-dos” to make sure you both have a proposal you won’t soon forget.
Anyone over the age of 40 could probably tell a few stories about a time when they were age-shamed for seeking love outside of the “typical” 20 to 30-something window. It’s a common misconception that anyone still single after a certain age is undesirable, rather than someone who chose instead to focus on their career, travel or personal passions. Our matchmakers have worked with enough clients to know that people follow many different journeys in life and none are really better or worse than the others. Everything depends on your personal priorities and goals in life. This is why our matchmaking agency is devoted to helping couples find lasting relationships with someone who really understands them. In fact, there are quite a few benefits to dating after the age of 40.
Single life is not the life sentence it’s made out to be. Our matchmakers encourage clients to look at their single status as a transitional period in life. It’s a phase that should be enjoyed to its fullest without expectation for any particular “expiration date” when you find true love and cast off the label. It’s more of a time when you focus on personal growth and prepare for the person you hope to be someday – with or without a significant other.
It feels like some women just have all the luck. There’s always going to be that flirty blonde who seems to know exactly what to do and say to capture a man’s attention. The truth is you don’t have to be a Victoria’s Secret model to attract a man. There are, however, a few things the girl who gets the guy does differently to make herself so attractive. Professional matchmakers have all the details you need to turn your love life around and make yourself irresistible to the opposite sex. Take a peek into the secrets of the girl who always gets the guy – and steal her tips for yourself!
A significant other does not “complete” you; they complement you. It’s great to build shared interests with a date, but the time to work on self-improvement is actually right now while you’re still single! Being single allows the freedom to try new hobbies, test different clothing styles, and develop your own personal interests so your date can get a better picture of who you are when it is time to start a relationship. Kelleher International has the ultimate guide to self-improvement for all singles seeking new relationships.
The purpose of dating is to eventually find the right one to begin a marriage with. Even when an outing goes awry, there is always something to be learned from the experience. Whether breakups occur due to poor timing or an incompatible match, dating sculpts our personal preferences that eventually lead to a future spouse. Building these standards takes time. At Kelleher International, we understand that our clients are ready to weed through the incompatible matches and work toward a worthwhile relationship with their soul mate. That is why we have specific dating tips on how to find the right one:
Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.
We’ll talk about strategies for dating success, navigating relationship land mines, and the mindset it takes to find love and make it blossom. We will put current events in the context of seeking love and even give you a little window into the match making business and how a centuries-old tradition continues to evolve in our modern world. The “right one” is out there for you, so check back weekly for updates or follow us on Twitter to make the most of our partnership in your future.
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Jill & Amber