We’ve all felt the rush of heat swallow us as we hear something that ignites our defenses. When a personal action, decision, or characteristic comes into question, it’s natural to want to run to your defense with a quick rebuttal and self-assured explanation, but there’s a better way. Receiving constructive criticism is art in mindfulness, and the Kelleher International matchmaking mavens explain why it’s so important to master when you’re looking for love.
In a vast dating pool, how do you rise to the surface and discover your match? At Kelleher, we find many of our clients open to doing whatever it takes to find their person. They’re willing to dive in and do the hard work, but the key to relationship success isn’t as complicated as most think.
Women agree they want to fall for Mr. Nice Guy, but they may be less vocal about the reasons they so often fall for the quintessential bad boy instead. We all know choosing the brooding bachelor doesn’t typically lead to a successful relationship. Fortunately, with life experience and relationship maturity, women grow out of the desire to be with this guy. Once women evolve, they yearn for someone trustworthy and confident who is genuinely interested in getting to know them.
The Kelleher International matchmakers weigh in with some tips from the bad boy playbook, so you nice guys can get the girl.
If we eliminate the ego’s race for wealth, fame, and fortune and drill down to our core desires as human beings, we all want the same things - To feel joy, love, and inclusion. As matchmakers, one of the most important elements of our job is to help you get out of your own way so you can realize those things.
The Law of Attraction can be your biggest friend or foe. It depends on where you stand on the idea that you are a powerful creator whose thoughts influence your reality. Many reject the idea that they control their destiny and discount the Law of Attraction as hokey. But, it's as real as the Law of Gravity.
We get that it’s a big responsibility to accept the notion and quite another to put it into practice. To help you dive in, the Kelleher International matchmakers have assembled the easiest, direct path to attaining what your desire.
As much time as we spend contemplating things, you could say we spend most of our lives living in our own heads. Our relationship with self is the longest and most intimate of any we will ever have, and it’s the one we should always trust the most. That inner voice, sometimes referred to as our “larger self” helps us navigate through life and establish our values. Unfortunately, it can also cause quite a bit of over-thinking when it comes to love.
Complete certainty, when it comes to love, is impossible. Humans are crazy creatures, constantly making decisions, experiencing things, growing and evolving on a never ending loop. When two of these humans get together, they’re both on their own wheel of evolution attempting to move in sync with their partners. You can see how expecting certainty in that situation is quite impractical. So what does that mean for you? You have to embrace uncertainty. It’s scary, and sometimes painful, but more often than not, it’s exhilarating, life-affirming, and exactly where the magic happens.
Follow these tips from our matchmakers to banish some of the biggest bi-products of uncertainty and let your love shine!
When most people think about the qualities of a successful relationship, they generally focus on selflessness, accountability, the ability to compromise, thoughtfulness, trust, flexibility, patience, etc. However, there is one other trait that often goes overlooked: courage. This is a quintessential part of any successful, long-lasting relationship, and it factors into so much more than just working up the nerve to ask someone on a first date. Here are some tips from our matchmakers to help you discover your own courage when navigating the sometimes tricky dating scene.
Single life is not the life sentence it’s made out to be. Our matchmakers encourage clients to look at their single status as a transitional period in life. It’s a phase that should be enjoyed to its fullest without expectation for any particular “expiration date” when you find true love and cast off the label. It’s more of a time when you focus on personal growth and prepare for the person you hope to be someday – with or without a significant other.
We’ve all had bad relationships, but usually the red flags are obvious: aggressive behavior, inability to commit, emotional unavailability, etc. However, there is actually a subtler red flag that our matchmakers watch out for: the fantasy bond. This bond fools people into believing they are in a connected, loving relationship when the reality is that they are just faking their way through the motions of a relationship without actually putting any effort into it.
Research indicates that nearly 75 percent of Americans believe in soul mates. That’s a vast majority of the country’s population who believe there really is one “perfect” person out there for them. Whether relationships are determined by fate, destiny or choice, the truth is that even when you are with the right person, love takes work. Doubts are a natural part of forming relationships with other people. So, to the woman who might be wondering if her relationship is worth it – or to the woman who is single and wondering if love really is in the cards for her, our matchmakers have a few pieces of wisdom to help guide you through the storm.
Relationships are meant to grow and evolve over time – and this includes overcoming conflict together. No two people in the world can agree on everything 100 percent of the time, but the beautiful thing about well-matched relationships is that our clients are better attuned to each other and are better equipped to talk out their problems, avoid extreme conflict and come out stronger for it. These eight secrets are the key to defusing almost any conflict in your relationship and can even help you and your partner build a closer bond over time.
Whether you are a new client flying off to Paris for your first match or have been happily married for more than twenty years, Kelleher International wants to be your resource to make your journey of love wildly fulfilling, exciting, dynamic, and deeply passionate.
We’ll talk about strategies for dating success, navigating relationship land mines, and the mindset it takes to find love and make it blossom. We will put current events in the context of seeking love and even give you a little window into the match making business and how a centuries-old tradition continues to evolve in our modern world. The “right one” is out there for you, so check back weekly for updates or follow us on Twitter to make the most of our partnership in your future.
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Jill & Amber